Everybody likes to have nice hair, don’t they? Well, maybe not everybody. I’m sure I’ve seen some people who seem not to care about having nice hair. But let’s call those people the ‘exceptions’.
So, excluding the ‘exceptions’, we love having nice hair, don’t we? And we love it when people comment on how great our hair, or our latest haircut, looks.
So, as I write this, in April 2020, most of the world is locked down, or self-isolating, and only the ‘essential’ services and shops are operating. That means, supermarkets, chemists, doctors etc.
The hairdressers/barbers/beauty salons are closed.
All of them.
So, after 3 – 4 weeks without a hairdresser, or much longer, depending on the last time they went, people are starting to panic.
Because they can’t get their hair done. In lock down. When they’re not allowed out anyway, except to go to the supermarket.
People (maybe even you) are saying that one of the first things that they’re going to do after lock down is go and get their hair done professionally. I even saw online someone asking if there were any hairdressers that will make a home visit during lockdown.
I accept that some people are still working, or have online meetings with their colleagues, and so a degree of ‘neatness’ is required in those cases.
Those who are reading this who know me in real life might be surprised to learn that I haven’t been to a hairdresser since 2002. Since 2002, nobody has cut my hair except for me.
Or they might not be surprised, because my hair is hardly ever ‘perfect’.
In fact, more often than not it’s a mess!
That’s right. I cut my own hair and have done for 18 years.
Why? I hear you ask.
Because, in 2002 I had time to think about a lot of things. I went through a personal disaster, and for me, the whole world changed. And I started to look at things differently.
I simplified a lot of things in my life. A bit like I simplified my makeup routine.
One of the things I realised was that there was no good reason to pay someone to cut my hair every time it ‘needed’ it.
And so, I’ve cut my own hair ever since.
Of course, over the years my hair has mostly been quite long. Cutting long hair is much easier than cutting short hair. I know, because when I was about 15 years old, I cut my long hair into a very short ‘boy’ haircut – in my bedroom without any help. It took ages to do it, and if I remember correctly I grew it out immediately because I realised that it would be really difficult to maintain the cut.
I understand that it’s also really difficult to cut curly hair, so maybe if you’ve got curly hair you wouldn’t want to try cutting it yourself. But, then again, why not?
I’ve cut my own hair in different ways. I’ve cut my fringe. I’ve layered the sides to ‘frame’ my face.
I’ve layered all my hair, not just the sides but the top and the back too. I’ve cut it straight across at the back. I’ve trimmed it so many times I’ve lost count.
Of course, it’s difficult cutting your own hair, and sometimes you make mistakes.
I remember once I cut my hair in the wrong direction, and was left with a very noticeable straight line horizontally along the side of my head, close to my skull. I don’t know how I managed to do something so stupid. And so, I was forced to wear my hair tied ‘up’ for about 5 months until it grew long enough to not be so noticeable.
I’ve also cut my fringe too short. Many times. If you know me in real life, you’ve probably seen me with a very short fringe that looked a bit strange.
But, you know what? It doesn’t matter. It’s only hair!
I’m not going to give you any hair cutting advice, except to tell you to take your time and think twice, cut once. Plus you can find plenty of Youtube videos about it. Find one you like and follow the instructions to get the ‘look’ you want. It’s really not hard.
What kind of shampoo do you use? Do you use the same one all the time, or do you alternate between two or more different ones? And do you also use conditioner? And hair moisturiser? Mousse? Or any other hair products?
Well, I used to use a lot of things in my hair. Especially hair spray for my fringe, and also when I had shorter hair.
Not any more.
I want to tell you about how I wash my hair.
I rarely use shampoo. I mean, I don’t even buy it anymore, so the only time I use it is when I’m travelling and in a hotel and need to wash my hair.
In 2015 I decided to stop using shampoo. I didn’t like the ingredients, it’s full of chemicals. Just like a lot of things we use, but hey, one thing at a time.
So, I did a little bit of research, and found that I could ‘wash’ my hair with bi-carbonate of soda, and ‘rinse’ or ‘condition’ it with vinegar.
And so I did just that.
For my shoulder length hair I put about 3 heaped teaspoons of soda in a container, and when in the shower I add about ½ cup of warm water. Then tip it over my head, rub it in for a while, then rinse it all out under the shower.
When it’s all out (be sure to rinse out all of it until it doesn’t still feel gritty) I put some vinegar into the container (rinse the container first, so there’s no remnants of soda in it). I prefer to use apple cider vinegar but any vinegar will do. I put about ¼ of a cup of vinegar, then add warm water to make about 1 – 1 ½ cups in total. Then, I tip it over my head.
I leave it in for a couple of minutes then rinse it out. Some people say you can leave it in without rinsing at all.
My hair never smells like vinegar, so yours probably won’t either.
Of course, my hair never smells like the smell of shampoo either. It kind of smells like hair now.
And, by the way, the days in between ‘washing’, if my hair feels a bit dirty or oily, I just wet it while I’m in the shower, no product at all, and it comes out fresh and clean.
Dying your hair
Honestly, I don’t know much about this subject. The only time I’ve ever dyed my hair was when I was 14 years old. I dyed it burgundy (a kind of purple/plum colour). It made me look very different. My own mother didn’t recognise me.
I haven’t dyed my hair since, and see no need to. We all have the hair colour we were born with, so I don’t understand why we feel like we have to change it.
I hated the colour of my hair when I was a kid. It was orange! But, apart from that one time dying it burgundy, I haven’t changed the colour of it.
And, I’m even embracing my grey hair as it slowly takes over. It’s natural. It’s me.
I wonder why most of the women I see these days (yes, I say ‘most’ because I think it’s more than 50%), dye their hair. Why don’t we like and accept our natural hair colour?
What about you?
I’m happy to have my hair as it is naturally. With its asymmetrical cut done by me (asymmetrical because I can never get both sides the same!). Without the fake smell of flowers or chemicals, or whatever, that comes from using commercial shampoos and other hair products.
And, although my hair isn’t really shiny and is sometimes a bit frizzy (because I don’t use ‘products’ on it), it’s still hair.
There are far more important things to spend our time, money, and energy on than our hair. Don’t you agree?
Or, maybe you don’t agree, and that’s fine. We’re all in different situations in life, and we all have different needs. So, of course, what’s ok for me isn’t necessarily going to be ok for you.
But personally, I’m happy with what I’m doing.
What are your hair care tips? Do you stress over how your hair looks and need a professional to deal with it? Do you prefer using commercial hair products, or do you use something more natural? Share your hair care advice with us in the comments below.